Supportive Emotional Language and Why We Need to Use It

How do you feel when something good happens to a friend or colleague? Are you happy for them? Do you wish them well? Or are you envious, wishing YOU had been the one to get that big win? In most cases you likely feel good for your friend and will congratulate them. But how do you do that?

When something good happens to a colleague or a friend, we tend to say Congratulations. We may even send a congratulatory note. What a lovely gesture. And I’m sure it is most appreciated.

But what happens when you OWN that feeling of congratulations? If you are truly happy for the person, how are you making it clear? If you tell someone ‘I am happy for you’, it elevates the well-wishing by giving that person the gift of your supportive emotion. You are empathetic and truly feeling good for your friend. Expressing yourself in this way can enhance your relationship.

A mere wish of ‘Congratulations’ can fall flat. It is neutral and common with no emotion attached. Take that emotional risk and feel what your friend must be feeling. Then let them know how happy you are for their good fortune. Experience the impact of using supportive emotional language. It can work wonders for enhancing your relationships.

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